So there are how many millions of people on facebook right? and how many millions of posts and pictures attached to each profile. So who would have thought facebook would have more power than a fully loaded rifle?
So facebook is a wonderful thing isn't it, you can share all your pictures with the world and share all sorts of ideas and plans and now even scores of various facebook games. It allows people from all walks of life to share ideas without really any real threat of being an outcast or shunned in any way really. It has the power to hold the thoughts and ideas of trips we've been on and to share our day with people we choose as our "friends". There are only a few downsides to this wonderful system, besides a terrible movie (seriously, a facebook movie? come on people why would i spend money on something i log into for free?)
It's been my experience that facebook, while a neat little application holds the power to destroy our lives (sounds epic, read on). I have heard many stories of couples on facebook who have had an account and spent lots of time together and enjoyed each others company enough to even use the M word (marriage). Only after a few months to find out a certain someone commented on a half dress woman or man and then bam, end of relationship. Seems crazy, but it happens more often than you think...for that matter more than it should ever. You see while facebook is wonderful and provides us with the ability to be social with long time friends of even just met you friends it also provides the world with a quick easy to read view of you and who you are and what you are about. The problem from a relationship point of view is that when you post something on your wall chances are (as men anyway, yes boys we take the first hit) someone has read it and judged you accordingly. Several examples are college babes, naughty kisses, and facebook date (the ladder is super hard to get rid of even if you never sign up to it); all these applications can be seen as a man being less than faithful. Now, ladies before you broad side me with the standard " if he cared about me he wouldn't need these apps anyway, just me" and the ever classic " if he likes to see naked women, he can see them now all he wants because i'm gone" remember, your problems with your guy looking at naked women are with all due respect a whole other rant (there will be one, i have time :)). All i am pointing out is that this happens and that it ruins relationships faster than if you found your man with a porn under his bed. In some cases, ladies pack up and leave before he is even home from work to say good bye.
As for the ladies side of it, most color there facebook page with cute girl stuff and some pretty neat stuff to (not saying you all only cover a facebook page with what i think is cute, that's just some that do that and i have noticed it is all i am driving at here). I have been to pages where some of the ladies have posted games like "attack" (awesome game like risk in many ways) and some things like national suit up day (fan favorite by the way). However, i have also seen the other side of it where there are have naked men and stuff about johnny dep (or the dude from twilight....uhhhhh).
In any event, my point is that both sides are just as guilty of the same problem. This didn't always happen so fast and without either side being given a chance to say anything before they are tared and feathered on the facebook streets (i picture some middle eastern town square here for this with a facebook logo somewhere). So let's back the train up a bit here and look at this, facebook was developed initially so that university students could send and receive information in groups faster and work on this info in groups faster than emailing each other. Great idea expect that now it does more than that and google ads are supreme on this site now along with a wealth of useless games. So here is the riddle of the century, we gave facebook our ideas, thoughts and pictures; we also gave facebook an identity by adding it to google and having everyone we know add us as friends. We also did we give this stupid website the power to decide who we date, who we love, who we hate, and who we wish would be run over by a small to mid sized bus?
A great man once said that man is only bound by chains he places on himself. If that is the case then it is we who are guilty of placing blame on others for things we have done ourselves. Who hasn't gone onto facebook and looked up a few pics of people just see them and said "wow, look at the guy/girl" We have all passed judgment on someone without even knowing the facts, all we have is just a picture and a comment that says "dude you must have been wasted". So now the best question, why can't we just delete the facebook account, the chain that makes and breaks us?
The answer will scare you a little, but the real reason we can't just walk away from facebook. It gives us comfort and lets us live a life or two that looks better than our own, it lets us live a life of judgment and it also comforts us and tells us we have one new message from someone, somewhere who may one day be that special one. It also replaces the need to have someone you can get comfort from...in short...facebook is evil, but the website itself isn't evil, it's us that gave our little bit of evil to facebook to post along with the comment " you can never leave, no matter what you do and I will control you and everything about you"
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